Recently we’ve seen some fairly high profile examples of bullying, in schools. With the tragic case of Asher Brown in Texas to the case of this girl who has cerebral palsy, most of the kids who are bullied have something in common, and that is that they are not “like the other kids.” Take for instance Asher’s case, a 13 year old who just came out as gay. Shortly after he did, he ended up taking his own life, after being bullied mercilessly about his sexuality. He must have been in a very dark place where he didn’t think that the treatment that was being directed at him was likely to stop, and that he had no place to turn. Below is an interview with parent who stepped in under different circumstances and tried to stop it the wrong way. I understand his frustration, but clearly his methodology was misguided.
That’s where we, as educators, need to step in. School and the bus ride to and from school must be a safe place for children and teens. Just like there is a zero tolerance policy for weapons in schools, I believe that there should also be a zero tolerance policy for bullying in schools as well. Teachers need to be absolutely consistent about how they react to bullying and get treatment for the bullied and the bully. Here are a couple of links, one from Fox News, and another from Stop Bullying Now, an anti-bullying website with some specific measures that should be taken to help mitigate the problem.
If a child is freaked out about coming to school, filled with anxiety about what's going to happen to them at the end of the day, during lunch, P.E. or even math class, how on earth are they going to function well in your class? Bullying doesn't just affect their self-esteem, but also their ability to learn, and that is something that can adversely affect their future.
Don't ever think that just because you "got through it" that bullying is in some way an acceptable rite of passage for young people. There are a lot of things that used to be commonplace that are now considered backward and unacceptable. Bullying should be treated the same way. And just because it you can't eliminate it entirely, doesn't mean we should allow an "acceptable level." We must always be vigilant and take the problem seriously.
